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Not measuring up 29 May 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Genealogy , Generational trauma , No Comments I grew up in the shadow of World War 2, in the Channel Islands—the only part of the British Empire occupied by the Nazis. My mother’s family buried their valuables in a potato pot and evacuated […]
The 4 layers of a porn image 18 January 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , 1 Comment “Pile on many more layers and I’ll be joining you there,” Pink Floyd lead singer Roger Waters sang in ‘Shine On, You Crazy Diamond, Parts VI-IX’ which closed their 1975 album Wish You Were Here. […]
Double-whammy – the shame of lack of sexual experience 16 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , Shame , 1 Comment As this site deals with awkward topics such as shame, generational trauma and porn addiction, from time to time I receive interesting queries. One such recent query was about the shame […]
The emotional cost of generational trauma 25 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , 2 Comments What is the impact of generational trauma? How do we count the emotional cost of generational trauma? This photograph from Sydney Sims says it all. We spend our lives trying to paste on a smile […]
What is sexual shame? 1 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Sexuality , Shame , 1 Comment In What is unconscious shame? I described how all the feminine aspects of our being—our emotions, our feelings about our body and our sexuality—have been pushed down into our unconscious by several millennia of […]
Victims, victimizers and seeing porn at 10 16 May 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Pornography , 1 Comment In Hessa – my first experience of porn I wrote about seeing porn at 10 when I was exposed to a softcore sex comic in Switzerland. The comic was part of a series […]
Coronavirus exposes South Korea’s sexual shame 11 March 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , 1 Comment One of the more curious effects of the 2020 coronavirus outbreak has been to highlight potential sexual indiscretions in South Korea. This conservative Asian nation is highly sensitive to perceived sexual impropriety, i.e. sexual shame. Official […]
Ancestral traumas express themselves through porn 3 June 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Ancestral trauma , Pornography , 1 Comment In What is ancestral trauma?, I wrote how traumas that occurred thousands of years ago yet remain embedded as genetic memories in our collective unconscious. As we go deep into our healing journey, […]
Healing the “shambles” – uniting head, heart and genitals 28 May 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , No Comments In The Heart of the Soul, American spiritual teacher Gary Zukav writes that, “The longest journey that you will make in your life is from your head to your heart.” It’s a popular […]
Porn therapies – symptom management or root cause resolution? 22 January 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , 1 Comment When it comes to porn therapies, there are two ways you can go. The first is the way that most of us unconsciously drift into—symptom management. We try to stop watching porn, first […]