unavailability
When men become emotionally available their sexual demons emerge 6 September 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , No Comments In a blog titled Is there a hole at the heart of your relationship? I describe a situation I see in a growing number of relationships: one partner (usually the woman) is emotionally […]
Patriarchy demands that our relationships are stagnant 5 February 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , 2 Comments “I do.” There are few words we say in our lives that carry more importance than a commitment of marriage. Yet, caught in the feel-good swirl of confetti, popping champagne corks and flying garters, few […]
Humanity runs on a Patriarchal Operating System 18 December 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Patriarchy , 4 Comments For the past 6,000 years, ever since the dawn of patriarchy, humanity has been running on a specific psychological paradigm—the Patriarchal Operating System. What do I mean by ‘running’? I mean breathing, feeling, thinking, eating, […]
What is the ‘false self’? 20 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , No Comments In blogs such as What is the unconscious?, What are shame-based issues? and How shame affects arrested development I describe the psychological legacy of patriarchy. Here I pull together various strands to describe some of the ways […]
Pain is the roadmap for what needs healing 7 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments In the personal healing world, we talk about the ‘healing journey’. What does that mean? We’re on a journey to healing. Yes, obviously—but where’s it taking us? What’s the destination? At this point, […]
What is emotional unavailability? 13 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , No Comments I first began to write about emotional unavailability in the post Is there a hole at the heart of your relationship? In it, I wrote: I’ve been having the same conversation over and over with […]
What is emotional responsibility? 3 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , No Comments What is emotional responsibility? It’s the Holy Grail. Eldorado. The X-factor. It’s what’s buried at the ‘X marks the spot’ on the pirate map. It’s the thing that U2 still hadn’t found when they released that cracking single […]
What is the mother wound? 8 November 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , 2 Comments Our society doesn’t have an accepted sense of some kind of mother wound that we all suffer from, individually or collectively. Yet one look at the world reveals a globe reeling from crisis to […]
Is there a hole at the heart of your relationship? 1 July 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , No Comments In recent months I’ve been having the same conversation over and over with people who are involved in personal development, building emotional integrity and improving the quality of their relationships. There is […]
Porn – the myth of ‘real isn’t enough’ 21 March 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments I was at a networking event recently and when I told a young lady that I was tackling porn addiction, she literally exploded: “I could refer a few ex-boyfriends to you. That whole ‘real […]