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How to do a 360-degree generational trauma evaluation 17 May 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , How-to & step-by-step , No Comments I was recently, and rather painfully, forced to revisit a trauma that I thought was done and dusted. I realised afterwards that I hadn’t viewed the trauma from the […]
Our ‘inner child’ is the product of arrested development 11 May 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , No Comments The ‘inner child’ is a popular concept in pop-psychology to describe a wounded aspect of us, trapped like the child above in the fishbowl of adult life with no way to navigate that […]
How the mother wound externalises our values – and why this is critical 9 May 2023 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , No Comments This is the most critical blog I’ve ever written. That’s why I’ve added the tag onto the title. I don’t want to shout or catastrophise, but […]
The mother wound destroys our inner compass 27 November 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , No Comments In What is the mother wound? and other blogs, I describe humanity’s single point of failure—collective arrested development of the mother-child bond (and the resulting psychic growth process) that leaves us in an emotionally […]
The mother wound creates a cycle of abandonment 17 November 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , No Comments Just as there is a life cycle, an ascending cycle that nurtures, develops, and raises us to new heights, there is a contra-rotating cycle. A downward, descending, dead-end cycle: the cycle of abandonment. […]
Emotional Reverse Engineering 9 November 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , How-to & step-by-step , No Comments I’ve likened generational trauma to the white spaces on old maps marked ‘Here be dragons’. We suspect something’s out there but we’re not exactly sure what. My experience is that when you consciously understand a […]
That which brings you success is that which destroys you 4 November 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments Many years ago, I was a jet-setting IT consultant. New Zealand, America, Hong Kong. I was billed out at $300/hour in the pre-Y2K mania. Hotels, rental cars, lavish meals. Success? Tick. […]
Stay in your lane 5 October 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments One of the pitfalls of a society characterised, as ours is, by emotional immaturity and irresponsibility, is a blurring of boundaries between ourselves and others. As we bring our unconscious to light, excavating programming that undermines us, […]
Mother and child non-communication – the original pre-verbal trauma 15 April 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , No Comments In We have no language for pre-verbal trauma, I wrote how difficult it is to articulate the experience of trauma when it occurred before we developed the capacity for language. The acquisition […]
The only exit from the past is by going back through it 10 December 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , Generational trauma , No Comments “The past is a door I don’t revisit very often”. I’ve heard this, and similar beliefs on leaving the past behind, over the years. This seems […]