Welcome to my site.

It is dedicated to exposing unconscious shame—and the patriarchal beliefs that created it—to achieve complete emotional wellbeing.

Leonardo da Vinci’s Vitruvian Man illustrates the ‘ideal man’. We cannot be ideal humans until we have wellbeing in every area of our lives.

Complete wellbeing means unashamedly embracing our physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and sexual aspects.

Our patriarchal society has historically limited expression of emotions and sexuality (feminine qualities) to a very narrow spectrum—and severely punished violations.

This has created a shame and fear of our emotions and sexuality that prevents us from expressing them healthily.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

Carl Jung

Our shamed emotions manifest in low self-worth, anxiety, self-harm and other cyclical disorders. Our shamed sexuality manifests in phobias, destructive affairs, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and porn addiction.

We can’t control these behaviours because they are unconscious.

Shame is the invisible barrier that prevents access to our unconscious.


“Michael is obviously a deep thinker and this combined with his rollicking writing style makes for an easy and entertaining read without losing the wonderful depth of meaning he offers us.”

Joan Morgan McCarthy, author of Peace and Harmony: Reenvisioning Sexuality Education

“THANK YOU for shining a light on this problem. More need to understand the reality of porn and sex addiction and the invitation to identify the deep human woundedness that drives people to these behaviors.”

Lauri Ann Lumby, OM, OPM, MATS

“Michael offers the partners of pornography-users a looking glass, window of opportunity to address their own sexual fears by encouraging conscious and open dialogue — to look at their own sexual wounds and encourage a new and healthier relationship.”

Cherie Roe Dirksen, self-empowerment author

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