sexualshame
Lap-dancing clubs don’t sell sex, they sell a boundary 3 May 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Sexuality , No Comments It’s a common misconception that lap-dancing clubs, or gentlemen’s clubs, as they are otherwise (and somewhat euphemistically) known, sell sex*. What they actually sell is an invisible boundary between fake sex […]
The sexual energy quadrant – creativity, passion, playfulness and confidence 15 March 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Anxiety , Sexuality , No Comments We tend to think of sex as a component of our love lives, and that’s it. When we have a romantic partner, we have sex with them. Period. We don’t […]
Porn therapies – symptom management or root cause resolution? 22 January 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments When it comes to porn therapies, there are two ways you can go. The first is the way that most of us unconsciously drift into—symptom management. We try to stop watching porn, first […]
Porn is a gauge of our sexual health 6 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments A lady friend recently recounted to me that she had been sitting on a train next to a man who was openly watching porn on his mobile. My friend felt very uncomfortable and found […]
Life drawing – the light and shade of shame 3 December 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , Shame , No Comments I recently started life modelling—posing naked for artists to draw the human body. Even in life drawing, as in everywhere in our patriarchy-based society, there is shame. As a keen observer […]
Pointing the finger at God – why are Michelangelo’s willies so small? 30 November 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , History , Patriarchy , No Comments I’ve been a little obsessed by penis size lately. I think it’s something to do with having recently begun life modelling with the good folks at […]
Does sexual shame affect penis size? 19 November 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments I’ve written extensively on this site how sexual shame unconsciously affects the entire spectrum of human sexual behaviour, both psychologically and in the bedroom arts. But let’s go one step further. Could it even affect that […]
The birds, the bees, and the fear of sex 8 November 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , No Comments I can still vividly remember the place where my father took me aside, some time in 1976, for the obligatory ‘birds and bees’ talk that all teenagers faced back then. It was a […]
Hessa – my first experience of porn 6 November 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments I can see the place now, the place I had my first experience of porn. A terraced hillside in southern Switzerland, right down in the Italian-speaking canton of Ticino. The hillside once grew grapes, which […]
Meatloaf’s Bat Out of Hell – a rock opera on patriarchy 29 September 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , Patriarchy , No Comments Some years ago I wrote how Pink Floyd’s 1979 epic double album The Wall was a complex 26-song cycle about patriarchy and its institutionalised sexual shame. I don’t know […]