Libido disappears when shame is absent 28 November 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , Shame , No Comments “My libido is strong. I have a high sex drive.” How often are such phrases used to justify inappropriate, disrespectful, and unhealthy sexual behaviour? How often do politicians, actors and other celebrities make the […]
Sexual frustration is stagnant life energy 29 September 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , No Comments Are you sexually frustrated? If so, has you ever considered that the answer to your sexual frustration might not be sex? Sexual pleasure is life pleasure, and sexual energy is life energy. And, of course, sexual […]
What is sexual energy? 29 September 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Sexuality , No Comments What is sexual energy? It may seem like an odd question, an obvious question, even an unnecessary question. Yet it is the question that unlocks answers to some of life’s deepest mysteries. Sexual energy is high-octane, […]
The orgasm reflex – nature’s cure for trauma and anxiety 28 November 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Anxiety , Cornerstones , Sexuality , No Comments We live in a world of growing crises, growing trauma, and growing anxiety. We’re desperately in need of solutions, a way of turning back the rising tide of […]
Double-whammy – the shame of lack of sexual experience 16 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , Shame , No Comments As this site deals with awkward topics such as shame, generational trauma and porn addiction, from time to time I receive interesting queries. One such recent query was about the shame […]
What is the ‘sexual-spiritual split’? 25 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Sexuality , No Comments The ‘sexual-spiritual split’ is a term that comes to us from Michael Picucci, PhD, co-founder of the Institute for Staged Recovery. Writing in The Journey toward Complete Recovery, Picucci describes the sexual-spiritual split as “a […]
Ancestral trauma #2 – Core sexual wound 21 May 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Sexuality , No Comments In What is ancestral trauma? I describe the key psychological wounds that humanity suffered as a result of the drought, desertification and famine that gave rise to patriarchy. Here I want to focus […]
Lap-dancing clubs don’t sell sex, they sell a boundary 3 May 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Sexuality , No Comments It’s a common misconception that lap-dancing clubs, or gentlemen’s clubs, as they are otherwise (and somewhat euphemistically) known, sell sex*. What they actually sell is an invisible boundary between fake sex […]
The sexual energy quadrant – creativity, passion, playfulness and confidence 15 March 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Anxiety , Sexuality , No Comments We tend to think of sex as a component of our love lives, and that’s it. When we have a romantic partner, we have sex with them. Period. We don’t […]
The birds, the bees, and the fear of sex 8 November 2018 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , No Comments I can still vividly remember the place where my father took me aside, some time in 1976, for the obligatory ‘birds and bees’ talk that all teenagers faced back then. It was a […]