Puberty shames teens into emotional stagnation 10 April 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Shame , 2 Comments In Patriarchy demands that our relationships are stagnant, I describe how our current human paradigm only survives by locking us into relationships that promise satisfaction but are in fact emotionally and sexually sterile. To […]
Mary Wollstonecraft statue reveals our unconscious shame 17 December 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , News , Shame , No Comments A recently unveiled statue of Mary Wollstonecraft has caused outrage by depicting the pioneering feminist writer naked. The statue depicts a nude woman emerging from an amorphous mound of organic matter. The BBC […]
Low self-esteem = the presence of shame 23 November 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , Shame , No Comments I’ve spent years trying to raise my self-esteem. Meditations, affirmations, incantations—all tried and failed. The reason they failed is simple. Low self-esteem is an indicator of the presence of shame. What is […]
Double-whammy – the shame of lack of sexual experience 16 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Sexuality , Shame , No Comments As this site deals with awkward topics such as shame, generational trauma and porn addiction, from time to time I receive interesting queries. One such recent query was about the shame […]
How shame affects life energy 7 August 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , No Comments I’ve written extensively how unconscious shame inhibits us emotionally, causing significant reductions in our quality of life. Yet that isn’t the full extent of damage that it causes. Here I describe how shame literally sucks […]
What is sexual shame? 1 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , No Comments In What is unconscious shame? I described how all the feminine aspects of our being—our emotions, our feelings about our body and our sexuality—have been pushed down into our unconscious by several millennia of patriarchal culture. […]
How shame affects arrested development 30 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , No Comments On this site I’ve written extensively about unconscious shame. Here I want to connect shame to arrested development. Arrested development is a colloquial term, popularised by the TV show of the same name, for what […]
Coronavirus exposes South Korea’s sexual shame 11 March 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments One of the more curious effects of the 2020 coronavirus outbreak has been to highlight potential sexual indiscretions in South Korea. This conservative Asian nation is highly sensitive to perceived sexual impropriety, i.e. sexual shame. Official […]
Life drawing – seeing the body in another light 15 January 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , Shame , No Comments Late in 2018 I chose to challenge myself. I joined a public speaking club, did a 43-metre bungy jump, and contacted Life Drawing MK about modelling. Why life modelling? Two decades […]
The shame layer is impervious to thought 18 July 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments Carl Jung wrote, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” Despite this admonition from one of the leading figures of psychoanalysis, and despite the recognition […]