4 Tips for healing generational shame 7 April 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , How-to & step-by-step , Shame , No Comments NOTE: When I began writing about inherited issues, I used the term ‘generational shame’ as I clearly perceived the unconscious shame associated with them. What I didn’t see so […]
Porn – the myth of ‘real isn’t enough’ 21 March 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments I was at a networking event recently and when I told a young lady that I was tackling porn addiction, she literally exploded: “I could refer a few ex-boyfriends to you. That whole ‘real […]
The sexual energy quadrant – creativity, passion, playfulness and confidence 15 March 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Anxiety , Sexuality , No Comments We tend to think of sex as a component of our love lives, and that’s it. When we have a romantic partner, we have sex with them. Period. We don’t […]
There is a you-shaped space in the jigsaw puzzle of the world 5 March 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Anxiety , No Comments Sometimes, we all need to hear this: there is a you-shaped space in the jigsaw puzzle of the world. Your uniqueness is valued. You are enough. Jigsaw I write this […]
Shame is the lock that keeps patriarchy in place 22 February 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Shame , No Comments I have written a lot about shame, and I have written a lot about patriarchy. But never before have I articulated the connection between them so clearly. Shame is the lock […]
Why do men collect porn they only watch once? 20 February 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , 2 Comments The porn stash… that ubiquitous—or near-ubiquitous—pile of material where men’s darker desires are catalogued. It used to be magazines and VHS tapes. Later, the bulky, clunky VHS videos went out and slimmer DVDs […]
Are you fighting or flowing with time? 4 February 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments Have you ever had the experience of wanting to drive somewhere in a hurry, only to find a succession of abnormally slow cars in front of you, slowing you down? I’ve had this repeatedly. […]
Newsreader shamed for penis-shaped jacket neckline 31 January 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: News , Shame , No Comments Australian Channel Nine newsreader Samantha Heathwood has acquired celebrity status after images of her wearing a jacket with a penis-shaped neckline went viral in early January 2019. The jacket makes Heathwood appear as if […]
Naughty or nice? The patriarchal programming behind Santa’s question 26 January 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , No Comments Over the Christmas period I was offered a chocolate with the rider that “you can only have one if you’ve been good.” The admonition was no doubt intended as a joke, but it […]
Porn therapies – symptom management or root cause resolution? 22 January 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments When it comes to porn therapies, there are two ways you can go. The first is the way that most of us unconsciously drift into—symptom management. We try to stop watching porn, first […]