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Does generational trauma attract us to genealogy? 9 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , No Comments We like to think that reason rules our lives, that every choice we make is conscious. What about our choice of interests? When something interests us, is that a choice, is it random—or is […]
The emotional cost of generational trauma 25 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , No Comments What is the impact of generational trauma? How do we count the emotional cost of generational trauma? This photograph from Sydney Sims says it all. We spend our lives trying to paste on a smile […]
How porn addiction led me to the mother wound 4 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , Pornography , No Comments My journey into unconscious shame began with porn addiction and ended with the mother wound. And here it is—the blog that ties together the two ends of a very long […]
The more you dig out your emotional damage, the more it affects you 17 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments On this site I’ve catalogued the emotional mechanics that govern our lives. We have to work with those mechanics as we go through the process of clearing our […]
“Pipes everywhere” – how Process Manufacturing maps human emotions 10 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , Mother wound , No Comments I used to work at the largest cannery in the southern hemisphere. Back in the 1980s, the cannery sold vast quantities of tomato sauce, baked beans and tinned fruit. […]
What is abandonment? 3 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , 1 Comment What is abandonment? The question seems simple enough. Some people are unfortunate enough to lose the support of a parent or significant other, often during childhood, creating feelings of abandonment. What is abandonment? The Wikipedia definition supports this view: […]
The laws of emotional mechanics 2 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Emotional principles , 1 Comment In our intellect-driven world we’re very comfortable with the words ‘laws’ and ‘mechanics’. ‘Emotions’, less so—particularly when it’s in a sentence about laws and mechanics. Yet emotional mechanics are just as precise, just as […]
What is arrested development? 30 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , 2 Comments On this site I’ve written extensively about unconscious shame. Here I want to connect shame to arrested development. Arrested development is a colloquial term, popularised by the TV show of the same name, for what is […]
What is the mother wound? 8 November 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , 2 Comments Our society doesn’t have an accepted sense of some kind of mother wound that we all suffer from, individually or collectively. Yet one look at the world reveals a globe reeling from crisis to […]
Deep emotional blocks need impacts to dislodge them 1 June 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments One of the less appealing features of the healing journey (not that it has many to begin with) is that the further you go, the more deeply our unprocessed emotional trauma is lodged […]