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To get out of where you are, love where you are 11 April 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments Everybody loves to hate emotional ‘stuckness’—those painful situations when life isn’t going the way we want it to, we seem powerless to alter the situation and there’s just no sense […]
Ancestral trauma #5 – Zero emotional and sexual growth 18 February 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Ancestral trauma , Sexuality , No Comments In What is ancestral trauma? I describe the key psychological wounds that humanity suffered as a result of the drought, desertification and famine that gave rise to patriarchy. Here I […]
Patriarchy demands that our relationships are stagnant 5 February 2021 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , 2 Comments “I do.” There are few words we say in our lives that carry more importance than a commitment of marriage. Yet, caught in the feel-good swirl of confetti, popping champagne corks and flying garters, few […]
Edward Carpenter and Covid-19 – civilization is the disease 2 December 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Arts , History , Mother wound , No Comments In 1899, Edward Carpenter wrote a book called Civilization: its cause and cure, in which he argued that civilization is a disease no society has ever survived. Civilization […]
‘Here be dragons’ – healing generational trauma is a hero’s journey 2 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , No Comments Remember those old maps with blank spaces around the edges marked ‘Here be dragons’? That’s where you’re headed—the blank spaces in your family history: the times, events and people that […]
Self-healing requires accepting responsibility 18 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments Have you ever wondered why some people rave about self-help books, yet others dismiss the same books as useless garbage? Same book, different people: the key factor is the people, not the book. The common denominator of […]
What is emotional unavailability? 13 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , 2 Comments I first began to write about emotional unavailability in the post Is there a hole at the heart of your relationship? In it, I wrote: I’ve been having the same conversation over and over with people who are […]
What is emotional responsibility? 3 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , 1 Comment What is emotional responsibility? It’s the Holy Grail. Eldorado. The X-factor. It’s what’s buried at the ‘X marks the spot’ on the pirate map. It’s the thing that U2 still hadn’t found when they released that cracking single […]
The laws of emotional mechanics 2 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Emotional principles , 1 Comment In our intellect-driven world we’re very comfortable with the words ‘laws’ and ‘mechanics’. ‘Emotions’, less so—particularly when it’s in a sentence about laws and mechanics. Yet emotional mechanics are just as precise, just as […]
What is arrested development? 30 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , 2 Comments On this site I’ve written extensively about unconscious shame. Here I want to connect shame to arrested development. Arrested development is a colloquial term, popularised by the TV show of the same name, for what is […]