depersonalisation

How porn addiction led me to the mother wound 4 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , Pornography , No Comments My journey into unconscious shame began with porn addiction and ended with the mother wound. And here it is—the blog that ties together the two ends of a very long […]

What is arrested development? 30 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , 2 Comments On this site I’ve written extensively about unconscious shame. Here I want to connect shame to arrested development. Arrested development is a colloquial term, popularised by the TV show of the same name, for what is […]

Victims, victimizers and seeing porn at 10 16 May 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Pornography , No Comments In Hessa – my first experience of porn I wrote about seeing porn at 10 when I was exposed to a softcore sex comic in Switzerland. The comic was part of a series […]

Shame-based issues #2 – Depersonalisation 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Shame , No Comments “You’re staring straight ahead. Somehow your awareness peels away from you, in slow motion. It’s like you’ve cracked in two, and one half is facing the wrong way. Are you in your physical body, which you know […]

What are shame-based issues? 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , 1 Comment Unconscious shame has given rise to a family of shame-based issues that all share a common denominator: the inability to discuss them. I’ve written about the origins of this shame in A brief history of shame. […]

What is unconscious shame? 3 March 2017 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , 2 Comments We live in a society that’s historically been emotionally and sexually repressed. The psychological mechanism by which we repress our socially unacceptable emotional and sexual impulses is unconscious shame. Unconscious shame is a layer of invisible […]