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What is emotional unavailability? 13 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , No Comments I first began to write about emotional unavailability in the post Is there a hole at the heart of your relationship? In it, I wrote: I’ve been having the same conversation over and over with […]
What is emotional responsibility? 3 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , No Comments What is emotional responsibility? It’s the Holy Grail. Eldorado. The X-factor. It’s what’s buried at the ‘X marks the spot’ on the pirate map. It’s the thing that U2 still hadn’t found when they released that cracking single […]
The laws of emotional mechanics 2 July 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Emotional principles , No Comments In our intellect-driven world we’re very comfortable with the words ‘laws’ and ‘mechanics’. ‘Emotions’, less so—particularly when it’s in a sentence about laws and mechanics. Yet emotional mechanics are just as precise, just as […]
How shame affects arrested development 30 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Shame , No Comments On this site I’ve written extensively about unconscious shame. Here I want to connect shame to arrested development. Arrested development is a colloquial term, popularised by the TV show of the same name, for what […]
Breathe – and stay above the fear and rage 5 June 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Anxiety , No Comments As I write this, coronavirus is sweeping the globe, public trust in the UK government has collapsed and the streets of America are full of rage. So is my social media feed: “It’s […]
Our toxic environment reflects our toxic consciousness 25 January 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , No Comments As I walked along a grass verge recently, a man approached, smoking a cigarette. He dropped the cigarette, crushed it with his heel and strode past exhaling smoke. He’d just polluted the environment. He had […]
What is the mother wound? 8 November 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , Mother wound , 2 Comments Our society doesn’t have an accepted sense of some kind of mother wound that we all suffer from, individually or collectively. Yet one look at the world reveals a globe reeling from crisis to […]
All the solutions you seek are inside you 16 August 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Emotional principles , No Comments All the solutions you seek are inside you. It’s one of those pithy sayings floating around the Internet and popping up in annoying Facebook memes. A colleague used to call them “inconvenient.” They’re […]
Patriarchy destroys our capacity to trust 29 April 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , Patriarchy , No Comments In Saharasia, geographer James DeMeo demonstrates that patriarchy arose between 6000 and 2000 BC when desertification of the Sahara, Arabia and Central Asia created competition for food sources between previously peaceful hunter-gatherer and […]
4 Tips for healing generational shame 7 April 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Generational trauma , How-to & step-by-step , Shame , No Comments NOTE: When I began writing about inherited issues, I used the term ‘generational shame’ as I clearly perceived the unconscious shame associated with them. What I didn’t see so […]