When we set out to bring the contents of our unconscious to light, it feels like we’re dealing with one great morass of buried pain. It’s a bit like the three monkeys—hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil. There is stuff inside us that we can’t see, hear or describe… yet it manifests in our lives in a variety of destructive ways.
Carl Jung said, “Man’s task is to make conscious that which presses upward from the unconscious.” He’s right—but ‘that which presses upwards’ isn’t the most accurate of definitions.
In The Politics of Experience, psychologist R.D. Laing wrote that “What we call ‘normal’ is a product of repression, denial, splitting, projection, introjection and other forms of destructive action on experience.”
The ‘normal’ that Laing refers to is a combination of conscious and unconscious behaviour, but as a laundry list of the contents of the unconscious he does at least give us a starting point.
Another way to assess the contents of our unconscious is by their origin. Here clarity begins to dawn.
Another way to assess the contents of our unconscious is by their origin. Here clarity begins to dawn. Everything that is traumatized within us can be categorized according to three possible sources.
- Trauma acquired in our current life
- Trauma inherited from our immediate ancestors
- Trauma inherited from our distant ancestors
Current-life traumas are the emotional wounds (and the coping mechanisms to manage them) you’ve acquired over the course of your life. These can range from high visibility, high impact traumas such as rape to low visibility—though not necessarily low impact—traumas such as growing up in a house with an angry father, which
All inherited trauma can technically be described as ‘generational trauma’ or ‘ancestral trauma’. Throughout my site—and throughout this toolkit—I use each phrase with a specific meaning.
Generational trauma refers to unprocessed traumas acquired from our immediate ancestors—typically our parents and grandparents. They are unique to us and to our siblings.
Read more: Generational Trauma Toolkit
Ancestral trauma refers to unprocessed traumas arising from the dawn of the patriarchal age that have been handed down through epigenetic inheritance ever since.
These ancestral traumas are common to all humanity, with specific overlays for different genders, races, classes, religions, nations, and any other form of differentiation. For instance, the ancestral trauma that applies to men is termed the ‘collective male unconscious’.
Read more: Ancestral Toxic Masculinity
Bringing the unconscious to light is the emotional equivalent of an archaeological dig, where we peel away layer after layer of sediment. As we approach the lower strata of this dig, we approach the mother wound.
During the 1991 Gulf War, Iraqi leader Saddam Hussein memorably used the phrase, “The mother of all battles.” The ‘mother of all…’ construct has since been used in many ways.
Our society doesn’t have an accepted sense of some kind of mother wound that we all suffer from, individually or collectively. The reason is simple: it’s so painful that we’ve buried it under enough emotional concrete that we’re no longer aware of it. Through unawareness we avoid the responsibility for healing it.
Yet, if we embark upon a journey to wholeness, we eventually chip our way through that emotional concrete and encounter it.
When it comes to emotional wounds, the mother wound is “the mother of all wounds.” It accounts for our disconnection from our selves and from the planet—which in turn accounts for the state of the environment. Heal this wound and your life will change.