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Porn addiction – the cure is known to the disease 29 November 2022 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments In my blogs I’ve written extensively on the principles and processes of porn addiction and how to heal it. This blog might be entitled, ‘the philosophy of healing porn addiction’. The core […]
What is the ‘false self’? 20 October 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Cornerstones , 1 Comment In blogs such as What is the unconscious?, What are shame-based issues? and How shame affects arrested development I describe the psychological legacy of patriarchy. Here I pull together various strands to describe some of the ways […]
‘Incel’ – the issue is shame, not physical appearance 11 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: News , Radicalisation , No Comments On 24 February 2020, a 17-year-old boy with a machete entered the Crown Spa massage parlour in Toronto and attacked three people. Ashley Arzaga, 24, died at the scene. Two others, […]
How porn addiction led me to the mother wound 4 September 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Mother wound , Pornography , No Comments My journey into unconscious shame began with porn addiction and ended with the mother wound. And here it is—the blog that ties together the two ends of a very long […]
Victims, victimizers and seeing porn at 10 16 May 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Pornography , No Comments In Hessa – my first experience of porn I wrote about seeing porn at 10 when I was exposed to a softcore sex comic in Switzerland. The comic was part of a series […]
Why does watching porn raise men’s energy levels? 15 May 2020 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments Have you ever noticed—I aim this question at the afflicted amongst you—that watching porn raises your energy levels? Have you noticed that you could surf for porn all night, pinging from image to image, […]
Ancestral traumas express themselves through porn 3 June 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: History , Patriarchy , Pornography , No Comments In What is ancestral trauma?, I wrote how traumas that occurred thousands of years ago yet remain embedded as genetic memories in our collective unconscious. As we go deep into our healing […]
Lap-dancing clubs don’t sell sex, they sell a boundary 3 May 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Patriarchy , Sexuality , No Comments It’s a common misconception that lap-dancing clubs, or gentlemen’s clubs, as they are otherwise (and somewhat euphemistically) known, sell sex*. What they actually sell is an invisible boundary between fake sex […]
Porn – the myth of ‘real isn’t enough’ 21 March 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments I was at a networking event recently and when I told a young lady that I was tackling porn addiction, she literally exploded: “I could refer a few ex-boyfriends to you. That whole ‘real […]
Why do men collect porn they only watch once? 20 February 2019 Posted by: Michael H Hallett Category: Pornography , No Comments The porn stash… that ubiquitous—or near-ubiquitous—pile of material where men’s darker desires are catalogued. It used to be magazines and VHS tapes. Later, the bulky, clunky VHS videos went out and slimmer DVDs […]