patriarchy

In my blogs I’ve written extensively on the principles and processes of porn addiction and how to heal it. This blog might be entitled, ‘the philosophy of healing porn addiction’. The core of this philosophy is that the cure is known to the disease. “The cure is always known to the disease” In The Sufis, […]

“My libido is strong. I have a high sex drive.” How often are such phrases used to justify inappropriate, disrespectful, and unhealthy sexual behaviour? How often do politicians, actors and other celebrities make the news for unwanted sexual advances? And how often does it happen and not make the news? What is the libido? We […]

I have written extensively about ancestral trauma—the deep-seated, many-generations old traumas that we all carry a distant memory of from the dawn of patriarchy. I’ve also written about the inevitable consequences of clearing trauma—experiencing rage at having had to endure that traumatic experience. This week I encountered the nexus of the two: the rage that […]

Just as there is a life cycle, an ascending cycle that nurtures, develops, and raises us to new heights, there is a contra-rotating cycle. A downward, descending, dead-end cycle: the cycle of abandonment. It’s why we litter the planet’s oceans with fishing tackle, its deserts with rusty cars, its city streets with the detritus of […]

In May 2019 I published a blog titled The Alien inside us – the lower masculine victimizer. In it, I used Ridley Scott’s mandible and tentacle armed creature as a metaphor for patriarchy’s structural dynamic where everyone becomes both victim and victimizer. I recently learned Japan has an entire comic genre devoted to this: ‘tentacle […]

The word ‘patriarchy’ is mostly understood in simplistic terms. Patriarchies are societies where men rule, and women get bashed down. The problem with this view is that it clouds the extent to which such societies distort natural human functioning and wellbeing. The best-kept secret of patriarchy is that everything is toxic. We’ve been living in […]

Are you sexually frustrated? If so, has you ever considered that the answer to your sexual frustration might not be sex? Sexual pleasure is life pleasure, and sexual energy is life energy. And, of course, sexual frustration is life frustration. Sexual energy In What is sexual energy? I describe experiments by Wilhelm Reich in the […]

What is sexual energy? It may seem like an odd question, an obvious question, even an unnecessary question. Yet it is the question that unlocks answers to some of life’s deepest mysteries. Sexual energy is high-octane, high-rev life energy colliding with the ‘red line’ of sexual shame. What is sexual energy? What is the energy […]

In Generational trauma is a frozen fight-or-flight response, I describe how a malfunction of the fight-or-flight mechanism causes trauma, which can then be inherited. I’ll now extend that understanding to show how this fight-or-flight malfunction, on a systemic scale, created our current, dysfunctional social model, patriarchy. Patriarchy arose from the intersection of two elements, a […]

If an alien were to visit our planet at the present time, and read any of the mainstream news outlets, they would have to conclude that humanity is an insane species. We so clearly need to nurture the environment, improve our wellbeing, reduce economic inequality, and end poverty. We know how to do these things, […]