A step-by-step process for understanding, identifying and healing generational trauma
The first time I encountered generational trauma, I had no idea what I had hit—except that it hit me so hard I was left lying on the floor in tears, with a few seconds of memory blackout.
I was simply researching a little family history.
I didn’t know it, but that history was literally buried inside my DNA. It had been a source of pain all of my life—and was waiting to go off like the emotional equivalent of an unexploded mine when I stumbled on it.
It was only the first instance in what turned into a minefield of buried family secrets, shame, and emotional pain—a toxic cocktail that I call ‘generational trauma’ (or generational shame). I later found that many people suffer from generational trauma—hence this toolkit.
Unresolved traumas pass from one generation to the next. They surface as disempowering feelings and behaviours that make no sense in the context of the life of the person experiencing them.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it fate.”
— Carl Jung
Generational trauma is a classic example of Jung’s observation about how unconscious behaviour rules—and ruins—our lives.
By definition, we are unconscious of our unconscious. Once it takes over our mind, we have no idea what we’re doing and no control over it until the unconscious behaviour ends.
Generational Trauma Toolkit
Our traumas live in our unconscious, under the emotional equivalent of reinforced concrete. Breaking through that concrete to access the trauma is a difficult, painful and painstaking task.
Ultimately, healing generational trauma isn’t so much about us—the ones who choose to do this work. It’s about our families and the DNA that gets handed down to the next generation. Think of it as the most extraordinary gift you can give your children.
The Generational Trauma Toolkit provides a structured framework for laying family ghosts to rest.
This toolkit contains the information you need for the transformation you seek:
- PDF (35 pages)
- Workbook (12-page Word document)
- Private link to 8-minute audio exercise on YouTube