Part I of this series discussed the deafening silence on sexuality in a 5D environment, while Part II discussed the origins of this silence—along with all our other sexual fears and limitations—in sexual shame. Let’s now look at these limitations and how Ascension impacts them.

One of the key ways in which we limit ourselves sexually is through the labels homosexual, heterosexual and bi-sexual. If I say I am heterosexual, what does that actually mean? In theory it means that I only have sex with my opposite gender.

In practice, however, it means something slightly but significantly different.

Future fears

Does it mean I’ve only ever had sex with my opposite gender? No. I may have experimented or changed orientation at some point in my life. Is the label accurate right now? Possibly. If I were having sex my orientation would be self-evident, at least for the moment, from the gender of my sex partner.

What the label heterosexual means, if I choose it, is that I’m committed to only having sex with the opposite gender in the future. These labels are all about the future. The commitment to monogamous marriage is the same. We’re trying to shore up our sexual boundaries to save ourselves from future transgressions. Whenever we make an irrevocable commitment about our future, fear is always present. And, as we know, Ascension is a process of eliminating fears—all fears.

Sexual limitations cannot survive Ascension because they do not operate in the 5D ‘now’ moment. This affects what is currently (and often disdainfully) called casual sex. The prevailing wisdom is that sex is only meaningful when the participants have a strong emotional bond—love. Conversely, casual sex is a display of meaningless, uncontrolled sexuality—the Biblical deadly sin of lust that society has traditionally opposed.

Sexual resonance

In 5D this differentiation collapses. Sexual pairing occurs not because you have a committed relationship but because you feel resonance, respect and sexual desire—in short, love—in the now moment. This may be with your life partner or with a total stranger—or even both! There is no difference because there is no shame.

While this suggests a world of endless sexual diversity, history may have modelled 5D sexual behaviour for us. Anthropological studies of remote egalitarian* societies that survived into the early 20th century show that while young adults tended to experiment, over time they increasingly focused on their spouse even though sex outside marriage was socially acceptable. The result was a stable but pliable social structure that satisfies the criteria of 5D now-centric living. In The Mass Psychology of Fascism, Wilhelm Reich writes, “The amazing thing about matriarchy* is… the natural self-regulation of sexuality that it entails.”

5D sex sizzles not because it involves our soul mates or a proliferation of partners, but because it is free of the shame-based emotional limitations of our outworn 3D sexual paradigm

Discernment and self-regulation will lead us to choose only experiences that are meaningful for us—and they will be unique to each individual, not dictated on a one-size-fits-all, society-wide basis as currently happens in 3D.

The difficulty lies in transitioning from 3D to 5D sexual values. As the fear of sexual deviance is the deepest fear in our psyche—transcending even that of death—it stands to reason that releasing our 3D limitations and stepping into our new sexual selves is the most challenging aspect of Ascension.

This journey outside our sexual comfort zones is likely to be bumpy, so fasten your Ascension seatbelt. One thing is certain: no one can tell you what your 5D sexual self will look like—except you.

* Such societies have historically been labelled as ‘matriarchal’. Anthropologist Joan Baumberger argues that no genuinely matriarchal societies have been proven to exist; i.e. when women have access to power they, unlike men, share it.