Part I of this series discussed how sexuality is the dirty little secret of Ascension, a subject largely ignored by most people documenting the journey into 5D. The reason for this is sexual shame. As a historically 3D society, we still have limited, shame-based sexual beliefs encoded in our DNA.
The origins of sexual shame can be traced back to the period around 4000 BC when competition for resources turned previously peaceful societies into warring patriarchies. This shift centred on the Sahara, the Arabian peninsula and central Asia, where (as documented by Dr James DeMeo in Saharasia) climate change turned abundant savannahs into deserts.
Violence became a virtue; emotions and sexuality were potentially catastrophic weaknesses. Men and women alike subjugated their natural sexuality to the need to survive. The women of the victorious tribes—i.e. the most violent—were banned from sex with outsiders to protect their bloodline. Those who violated social taboos were punished, often by death.
Sex = death
The practice of stoning women to death for adultery continues to this day in some places. In countries further from the equatorial heartland of these sex-negative beliefs, over time the practice weakened into social revulsion against infidelity. (An application to the British parliament for the capital punishment of adultery was made as recently as 1857.) In time monogamy was rationalised as highly desirable, lifelong emotional pair bonding.
Other sexual practices, including homosexuality, having multiple partners, masturbation, oral sex and so on, were also repugnant to a society that only accepted married, monogamous sex for procreation as socially legitimate.
In Civilization and its Discontents, Sigmund Freud wrote that, “Present-day civilization gives us plainly to understand that sexual relations are permitted only on the basis of a final, indissoluble bond between a man and woman; that sexuality as a source of enjoyment for its own sake is unacceptable to it; and that its intention is to tolerate it only as the hitherto irreplaceable means of multiplying the human race.”
Sexual shame can thus be understood as the anxiety and fear that a failure to control one’s sexual impulses will result in violent retribution, expulsion or death. In Western Europe, sexual shame peaked during the witch-hunts of the Inquisition era and, in Britain at least, the prudish Victorian age in the second half of the 19th century.
Our sexual beliefs stem from this shame. All sexual customs and laws, and much of our social etiquette, are attempts at unambiguously categorising sexual behaviour as acceptable or unacceptable so that transgressors can be identified and punished.
A profound fear of sex remains embedded in the deepest layers of our genetically inherited social conditioning. This fear of sex causes us to place socially acceptable limits on our behaviour. We then project those limits indefinitely into the future.
As Ascension is a process of becoming aware of and releasing all fears and limitations, it’s reasonable to assume this includes sex
Ascension mercilessly reveals that which needs to be released. An obsessive interest in sex can now be seen for what it is: a limiting belief drawing attention to itself so it can be accepted and released. When we internalise this understanding, 3D values fall away and a new sexual paradigm crystallises. But what does it look like?
Part III of this series examines what a 5D sexual paradigm may look like—and the challenge of embodying it.