Over the years, I’ve come up with a number of definitions for Ascension. In evolutionary terms, it’s a process of compressed or accelerated evolution. In spiritual terms, it’s the full embodiment of Christ Consciousness. In Christian terms, it’s passing through the Narrow Gate (Matthew 7:13). Here I’d like to look at it in psychological terms—as the controlled demolition of what is called the fake or false self.

The concept of the false self emerged in psychoanalysis in the 1960s. We each have a true self—the part of us that feels safe, alive and able to express ourselves spontaneously—and a false self, an emotionally frozen ‘defensive façade’ we present to the world to paper over our survival fears.

Introvert v extrovert

The false self can be introverted or extroverted—indeed, it may even be the source of this categorisation. Some people compensate for feelings of insecurity by over-projecting themselves onto their surroundings, seeking safety through control and domination of their environment.

Others do the opposite, withdrawing behind a wall of meekness due to fears of being unable to compete with or control their surroundings. By keeping out of the limelight they hope to sneak through life without attracting too much attention. Introvert v. extrovert is the false self’s version of fight or flight.

In both cases, the false self is underpinned by emotional unavailability—showing up physically and mentally, but not emotionally—and by a lack of responsibility for our feelings. When we hurt we look for someone—anyone—to blame.

The false self is thus a collection of emotional coping mechanisms for dealing with what feels like a fundamentally unsafe world—the world of patriarchy where a growing number of people compete for a dwindling amount of resources.

Anaesthesia and blame

The result is a society founded on the twin pillars of anaesthesia and blame. We devote our whole lives to stopping ourselves feeling bad—through money, love, sex, food, shopping, alcohol, drugs, music, Netflix… whatever. Whenever we are forced to confront the pain of our survival fears we react by blaming someone else, often expelling them from our lives in the hope this will stop the pain.

It doesn’t, because the pain is inside us.

The Ascension process gradually forces you to address every wounded belief you carry, and deal with the unprocessed pain surrounding it. In this way we deconstruct the false self.

Ascension puts an end to this emotional irresponsibility. This sentient process gradually forces you to address every wounded belief you carry, and deal with the unprocessed pain surrounding it. In this way we deconstruct the false self. The process starts gently enough, spoon-feeding you issues only as fast as you can manage to work through them.

In Hyperbolic funnel – the shape of Ascension I’ve described the geometric trajectory of the process. As we increase our ability to handle emotional responsibility, the issues come at us harder and faster.

Ascension turns into a rollercoaster that only spits you off when it can’t go any faster. Life can feel like it’s completely out of control—yet, the further along we go, the more we become aware of the intelligence and grace of the process. It is truly a controlled demolition of the false self, ultimately delivering us into a life where only our true self—loving, loved, safe and spontaneous—exists.

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